This month, I had the pleasure of being sent a copy of Susie Bright’s new sex journal “Love and Lust”. For those of you who don’t know much about Susie, go read her blog; she’s a sex-positive feminist author, editor, performer, lecturer, and much more. Susie has written books ranging from topics on sex, erotica, and motherhood. This time around, she has created a journal “for your love life – all the juicy details”.
I’ve loved journaling all my life, and I still have my 101 Dalmations lock and key diary somewhere in my childhood house. Susie’s journal immediately reminded me of those days, answering silly questions that surreptitiously provided an insight into who I was. The biggest difference was that this journal feels like an adult journal. The outside cover is a beautiful floral pattern of black on red, and there is even a lock and two keys; perfect for keeping your secrets to yourself and maybe even one special someone.
Inside the journal is a welcoming note from Susie, followed by beautifully printed pages of fun questions and memorable quotes from characters such as Alice Walker and Zelda Fitzgerald. I chose my favourite pen, and jumped headfirst into journaling. Some of the questions immediately brought up old memories and were easy to answer; “Who was your first kiss?” and “What’s your favorite go-to fantasy?”. Others were more difficult, or I decided to come back to them later when I was in the right mood; “What’s a sexual secret you’ve never shared with anyone?”. I left a few for much later, since I had no experience to draw from to answer the question.
While I thought about skipping around the entire journal, I ended up answering most of the questions in order. They’re grouped into related sections, which made it quite difficult to skip pieces without getting confused about the next question’s references. Even so, I enjoyed moving through this journal at my own page. It’s perfect for reminiscing about old flames, mistakes and triumphs. I kept it by my bedside so I could write in it each night before bed.
I only had a few qualms about this journal. Firstly, a significant portion of the questions require the writer to have a bit of a colourful sexual history. I couldn’t answer questions about having multiple partners in one year, sex with a person who became ‘well known’, sexual partners who had other sexual partners at the same time, or sex with a stranger. It made me sad to skip so many of these questions, so I may go back and write my hypothetical thoughts instead. Susie mentioned that she may later write a ‘virgin’ journal, which I look forward to comparing to this one. I have a feeling I fall somewhere in the middle. The other piece of this journal that irked me was the lock – there weren’t any directions so it took me fifteen minutes to figure out how to use it, and the plastic hits against the page edges and is damaging them over time.
Overall, I would recommend this journal for those who love being prompted to write their thoughts. “Love and Lust” would be a cute gift for a girlfriend who could use a little more introspection, or to share with a group of friends during a sleepover or hen’s night. Keep in mind, however, that some of the questions may be more extreme than the sexual history of you and your buddies. No worries, though; have fun discussing “what ifs?” and see what they think!
I’ve been lucky enough to give away a copy of “Love and Lust” to one of my lucky readers. There are many ways to enter!
Mandatory entry (from Love and Lust): Tell me, what movie sex scene would you love to put yourself in and why?
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I will be verifying all posts and using RANDOM.ORG to choose the winner.
Deadline: January 1st, 2011 at 11:59 p.m. PST.
Restrictions: You must live in the continental US or have a friend here to whom I can ship your prize.