Look Mom, No Hands!

Lately at EF I’ve been following a thread in which a bunch of women are discussing how long it takes them to get off when masturbating with just their hand. And you know what?

There are people who can’t.

This basically blew my mind. Here I was, thinking I’m a total freak because I can’t get off with toys of any kind. Vibrators, dildos, it just doesn’t get me to climax. Even the Magic Wand, while amazing and beautiful, has only gotten me off once – and to be honest I’m not convinced that was an orgasm because it was mindblowingly different from my normal ones.

What I can do is get off with my hand. Since I was about six years old, I’ve had this perfect system of laying on my front, hands balled up between me and the bed, and orgasming in under ten minutes. Sometimes it’s under two. Since puberty I perfected doing this same motion while laying on my back, and I can get myself off no problem as long as I’m not exhausted.

But there are people who can’t.

And while I feel terrible for them, this makes me feel better. Because if there are people who can’t get off with their hands despite this being a forgettably easy task for me, then there must be other people out there who have a damn impossible time getting off with toys. Which means I’m not alone. I’m not a freak, there isn’t something inherently wrong with me.

What a revelation.


  1. 1
    Lithaewyn says:

    I used to get off with my hands all the time, but since I’ve gotten into sex toys, there’s much more work required. This is why I do believe that the “myth” about losing clitoral sensitivity is somewhat true.

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    Lucid Obsession says:

    Have you tried the Sasi? It’s definitely more like a finger or tongue rubbing and you don’t have to have the vibration on. Different people will respond better to different types of stimulation, though I don’t think anything is impossible

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      Dusk says:

      I haven’t yet, actually. Might have to put that on the wish list, though I think I’m getting used to switching from toys to hands at the last minute :D

      1. Lucid Obsession says:

        I tend to use a combination of rubbing with a vibrator too, that feels better

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    Venus says:

    And omg, that’s exactly how I masturbated when I was young too. lol.

    I can get myself off with my hands in under a minute flat. Seriously. I don’t remember not masturbating my whole life. I know just how my clit likes it :D I can get off quicker with my hands than I can a toy.

    1. 3.1
      Dusk says:

      That’s awesome. I SO love knowing I’m not the only one.

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    happyhomeschoolingmom says:

    I used to be great with my hands (doing it since I can remember) , but now I am strictly toys. I have fibromyalgia and my muscles just get too tired and its painful to use my hands at the pressure and speed I like.

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