This morning I received my first review for the new site over at Feedback Roulette. I found it absolutely hilarious, and a bit disconcerting.
The good:
- good quality pictures and not offensive given the topic
- good quality writing – great to see some sensible thoughts on paper.
- Best of luck with it
The Bad:
Your banner photo gives me the impression that this is a sado-maso site and reading through the blog, I saw it is more sex positive or sexual freedom so for me the picture was a bit misleading as I am all for sex toys and to talk about sex but I do feel uncomfortable with sado-maso as it’s more about power and domination…
I wasn’t sure (given the above picture) if you were a man wanting to dominate a woman and only reading through I understood you were female. You could target your ideal reader better – for women who ….. so that they can (do what)… so that your blog immediately connects with the person reading otherwise, if i came across it without having to review it, I would have made up my mind based on the banner picture and moved on.
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My first thoughts? Someone either didn’t read the “About” page or didn’t stop to think about what “kink” and “BDSM” mean.
I’m glad to see that I have good quality writing and sensible thoughts, but what the hell? This is a sado-maso site. I specifically said that when I told my readers I would be writing about “thoughts about kink, sex, and everything in between”. Whether or not the person reading my blog is comfortable with SM has nothing to do with the quality of the site, and I laugh knowing that the reader doesn’t think sex positivity and SM are compatible. It was also laughable that they assumed from ONE banner image that I was a man wanting to dominate a woman. I could have easily been a woman wanting to dominate women, if we’re going to make assumptions. Or I could be a woman wanted to be dominated. Cha-ching! Admittedly I didn’t spell this out in my about page, but I didn’t realize some people found it such crucial information to judge me by.
I think I’m going to edit my “About” page to better talk about my relationship between BDSM and sex positivity, so I can blow the mind of the next innocent wanderer to end up here.
4 comments
Lucid Obsession says:
April 8, 2011 at 1:02 pm (UTC -5)
I love your banner picture. I think it’s very attractive and very fitting. People are always going to think what they want about what is sex positive and what isn’t, but really, that shouldn’t affect the review of the site. If someone is that mislead by a picture, then they need to learn a few lessons.
Misfit Momma aka Missy says:
April 8, 2011 at 9:18 pm (UTC -5)
Interesting. I love your banner too!
Miranda says:
April 9, 2011 at 12:33 am (UTC -5)
Not very good feedback. I also really like your banner and think it sets the tone perfectly.
Twisted Finger says:
April 17, 2011 at 4:25 pm (UTC -5)
WOW. It’s unfortunate that so many people are anti-kink. It’s hard educating people that don’t want to listen.
And your banner is very sexy btw.