FetLife Conversations

It amazes me some of the people who contact me on FetLife. I have a very specific section of my profile that says if we haven’t met in person, please send me a message before ‘friend’ requesting. Tell me why you stopped by, why you want to be friends, and why I should be interested in chatting with you :D .

It’s not that I’m trying to be mean, but I got sick of people with profile pictures of their cocks friend requesting me from across the country. I specifically state I’m in a monogamous relationships and I’m just looking for friends, so it doesn’t seem too much to ask. Even so, I get some conversations that make me wonder if people read my profile at all.

Convo 1: I’ll only post portions of this one because it’s quite long.

“Jordan”: Ok just asking, well i hope you like it. Too bad ur not in a open relationship, your beautiful
Me: Aww, thanks!

“Jordan”: meh, its home, too hot tho. And yes ive been all the way to [place name removed] haha. So what major intersection are you near?
Me: Haha sorry, I’m not comfortable with narrowing my location quite that much >>;

“Jordan”: Hey, so did you have a yahoo or somthing, i mean i dont mind chatting on here, but i just think its easier there. Just askin

It wasn’t terrible but I wasn’t too thrilled he was trying to get so much detail on where I live. Creeeeepy.

Convo 2: This message just came in today and I haven’t responded yet.

“Dave”: Hey how are you? I’m “Dave” – Attractive dominant guy in the Dallas area.

Uhh….great? Considering that I’m in a relationship and looking for friends only, I doubt the fact that he’s attractive and dominant is going to matter much. In fact, he never told me what he’s looking to get out of chatting with me. I doubt we’re on the same wavelength here.

Convo 3:

“Carl”: So beautiful
Me: Thank you!
“Carl”: Indeed. How are you mam?

Oh dear lord. Firstly, I’m flattered that you think I’m pretty but it’s not the best way to start a conversation with someone you don’t know. Secondly, I realize we’re in the south but NO ONE calls me “mam”. Maybe if I were a dominant woman, but I’m not. Really, really not.

Convo 4:

“Rob”: I’m a local east bay guy very new to this scene and looking for a fun play partner with similar interests. My name is Tony. I’m half Italian, half Persian, mid-30s, good shape, masculine, clean, well-traveled, educated and financially successful, never been married, no children, etc. I am, however, a man with a wicked side that the society doesn’t always seem to accept! Wicked in a playfully mischievous way, not a malicious evil way! I have love and respect for women. But I have this deep desire to dominate my partner, teach her to obey and please her man as if she was placed into this world for such purpose … to serve her man with her body. And truly get pleasure from seeing pleasure in her eyes.

If you like to get to know me better, please drop me a line. Until then …

Uh, no. I’m not looking for a play partner, especially not in their mid-30s, and that sentence about wanting to dominate his partner was a bit much for me.

I know, they’re not the worst conversations that have happened on a social networking site. But they are quite a new experience for me, and I thought I’d share. I don’t know how to make it any more obvious what I’m looking for on my profile. But oh well.



  1. 1
    Pixel says:

    Pffft. You’re a submissive female on Fet! Obviously reading your profile would be a waste of time, as any Dom knows that what you *really* want is him. ;)

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    Lucid Obsession says:

    I don’t get too many, but I list as a kinkster. I have had several 50+ year old men message me wanting me to peg them -.- I was getting so many I added my age preference to my profile without realizing it was already there. People just don’t bother to read profiles at all it seems. Oh and then the teenagers 18-20. Just no. I’m only 24 but I just can’t play with people younger than 21, it feels kinda wrong to me. One of my most recent messages just said “hey” and another a guy from TN wanted me to meet him half way to play with him and I’m just like ha.. ha.. no. If you wanna play you come to me.

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